Reader Story: Living Again After a 6+ Year Marriage to TEAM
Six months out of a six and a half year “marriage” with TEAM, this reader reports she is happier, the family’s credit card debt has almost disappeared, and her family life has improved. This story, and the other stories posted on this site, should be considered positive, uplifting accounts of people who recognized that something was wrong in their life (i.e. their TEAM business) and went about and made corrections (i.e. get out of TEAM).
She and her husband regained their critical thinking skills, and rightly started to question what was being told to them on-stage, at meetings, and in one-to-one conversations.
We got involved with team shortly after getting married – only 4 months after we said “I do” we said “I do” to the Team. Initially, I did not want to do it, but my spouse signed the paperwork anyways and it took me a little while to get fully involved but eventually I did.
Once I was on board, we were gung-ho. We never missed a Tuesday. We never missed a seminar. We never missed the majors. We tried to qualify for any time with our upline leaders (who are actually awesome people and have also left the Team since getting their team taken away and other unethical stuff they were asked to do). We made phone calls. We went to calling parties. We cold contacted. We had even gone through our lists twice, re-contacting people after a few years of being in the business.
We were honestly trying our hardest to STP or sponsor the person (ha!) and make it work for us, but it just never seemed to work for us. I prayed nightly about it – asking God for blessings for our business. We weren’t in the business for X number of years just to drop out, like we had seen so many other people do. I KNEW this was what God had planned for us – I KNEW it….but God was just waiting for us to change, we weren’t changing enough. We had to read more books and listen to more CD’s. We obviously weren’t ready for a big Team yet. (See how messed up my thinking was!!!!)
There were times I would get so mad at my spouse for not doing the work. For not making phone calls. I would get mad when we didn’t qualify for things (like time with our PC) or any type of party. It caused so much stress and tension in our marriage. We felt like crap when we didn’t show plans. We felt like crap when a plan didn’t go well and the people didn’t get in. We felt horrible for sitting at home on any certain night and not “building the business” like we should have been. But our uplines kept encouraging us, “you can do it!” or “I’m so proud of you!” (these were different uplines from the ones mentioned earlier. Actually, these uplines were once our downlines, but when the change with MV came, they moved above us…awesome….) (side note: these uplines are actually good people, just very lost and confused and being mislead).
Our life literally revolved around the Team. Not to mention our finances. We were hurting, big time. We only had one income and that income was based on commission yet we stayed on system. We stayed on autoship. We couldn’t possibly go off system or stop attending a major…what if we were to miss something that were to flick our switch!! We went into thousands of credit card debt to stay alive with Team. If it were not for the Team, we would have had NO credit card debt. We would have been able to stay afloat, but since we thought we were doing the right thing, we stayed afloat by putting Team stuff on credit cards. Glory to God, we have almost all of that debt paid off (we’ve only been out of the business for 6 months) but it would have been better never to have that.
We officially quit the Team when we found out why our mentors (who had disappeared about 1 year prior for reasons unknown) quit. Their story is theirs to share, but they did get their Team taken away from them and have had many other injustices done to them. We researched some of the stuff and came to the conclusion that the people on Team are fake. Everything is based on fake friendships. The majority of people won’t ever talk to you again if you ever quit.
I now realize that it wasn’t God and His plans that were keeping me in the business. It was the lure of the money and the things. The time that we were supposed to have. I have come to figure out it’s all about material stuff. They claim it’s about changing lives, but really, it’s about materialistic things.
We started with Team in Quixtar (although we were told it’s not Quixtar, they just supplied us) we moved with them to MV (although, when I first found out it was juice, I was quite saddened) and we left right before the launch of life (which I’m sure the people still on our team think we were crazy! Since that’s when the money was supposed to start rolling in!) But one of the things I noticed I did alot during my tenure with the team was when I thought something was strange or not right, I totally blew it off. Like, Pastor Dickie disappearing. I remember talking about that with a girl who is still on the team and we couldn’t figure out why he just disappeared. But we didn’t question it. I remember at seminars, the speakers would be like “wow! look at how much you’ve grown!!!” and I’d look around, and think to myself, no we haven’t – it’s still the same or less, but I didn’t question it. When there were Gold’s on our team who went power player every month (seriously, they went PP for like 2 years straight, supposedly), but yet, never moved on, did I question it?? Nope. Nada. I believed we were following people who cared and would never lie, so I never bothered to think twice about that stuff.
Now that we have quit after 6 1/2 years, our marriage is strong – we don’t fight constantly and we actually have time and money to do stuff together. We have time to spend with our kids. We don’t feel guilty for staying at home and we are truly happy in life. We put on focus on God and what He wants for our lives, not what I wanted God to plan for my life. My advice is, if you are checking out the Team, please just say NO!! It’s not worth the money or time. It’s not worth the fighting you will encounter with a spouse or other family members. Enjoy life NOW. Don’t live for the future. Don’t live for the Team because ultimately, the Team will take over your life and everything will revolve around it, whether you plan to make it that way or not. Live for God.
I celebrate this reader and every other ex-TEAM member who has shared his or her story on this blog. Out of a negative situation, they brought about positive change in their lives. By posting their stories, they will help others realize that the TEAM LIFE (formerly MonaVie, Quixtar and Amway) business opportunity is not necessarily what it is hyped up to be.